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James Miller RIP

They say you should not speak ill of the dead. Even if I thought violating that maxim a good idea, I could speak no ill of James Miller.

I encounter many people at the convention or two I go to, but get to know few. I’m not outgoing or even particularly nice (although I try to be polite). So even as conventions have grown, I withdraw. I do make an effort, but inevitably I retreat to the crowd I have known for decades. Time is limited — I tell myself — but there is also the comfort in old friends and comrades. Which makes it all the more amazing that I made it a point to go out a meal with James when we are at the same convention. I don’t know if he asked me to go to lunch one day, or I invited him. I can’t remember.

Anyone who knows either of us would bet money on James.

We discussed work, games, and whatnot. I don’t remember the details. But I do remember the laughter. Not one awkward pause or one mean-spirited joke. I remember no ill. And after that first time, yes I did suggest lunch the following years.

To say that we were friends is to presume, but I wish I had more acquaintances like James. And I am so very tired of obituaries.


Update — There is a memory board at the funeral home to post thoughts and condolences.

Written by taogaming

August 5, 2020 at 11:13 pm

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  1. Thank you Brian, “I could speak no ill of James” seems just right.

    Lou P Wainwright

    August 6, 2020 at 4:27 pm

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